Indian mother of two girls
October 5… 20 years ago… I became a mother … again… for the last time.
Oct 4, 2003 - Harish took me grocery shopping & we had dinner at Dwaraka - Tomato soup & masala dosa.
Anaka was born too early in our marriage to a couple who had not figured their life.
So, when we decided to have a second child, I told Harish
- I will finish my graduation.
- We will move out of this joint family.
I wanted to enjoy my pregnancy and wished my baby be born in a loving happy family.
I ate all the food I liked and slept a lot.
And the baby could come into the world when it was the right time & not based on skewed astrology.
Plus Harish & I could name it as we pleased, without adding/removing letters from proper sane spelling!
Freedom!
Pain started by 3 am on October 5, 2003.
Sunday.
Vijayadasami.
The hospital was closed. No
Out-Patient service available.
The doctor was at the church when I called to tell her my labour pain had started.
The baby was born before noon.
I got out of anaesthesia by 3 pm.
Harish and Anaka brought the small bundle to show me.
I first saw the pink feet.
So small, so beautiful.🥰
Another girl added to the Harish clan.
While some “relatives” hid their glee and consoled me for not begetting a boy; I love that my father-in-law was open and did not speak to me till the 11th day.
So what if the Y chromosome should have come from Harish and I have only a pair of X chromosomes? 😂😂
I soon got over my “I had wanted a boy” phase.
Who can not love the always hungry, nipple gnawing, peeing, pooping, hardly sleeping 3.5 kg monster?? 😂😂
I did beg Harish for another child. Any child. Male / Female.
But by then, Anaka was in school and the fees were so exorbitant that Harish’s fledgling business could not support another child’s education. 😅
Yup, school was the reason we did not add to the population. 🤣🤣
Now, all these years later Anaka continues to be the best elder sister anyone can get. Supportive, caring & setting a very high bar.
Harish is the best father who treats both his girls as humans and gives them every opportunity.
And me?
I am still learning to be a mother!
But I know that both my daughters are the best blessing God could have given me. 🥹
Ananya is full of life, energy…she can light up any room she enters. (Like me!!😜)
Unlike me, she is a thorough diplomat, who knows what to say and how to handle people.
BTW, she became my father-in-law’s favourite grandchild.
At this point, she is tackling a powerful beast (LSE!😂) with poise & great cooking. 😃
Super proud of her.
Here’s wishing her a very happy birthday.
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